9.10.09

the thing about love

I just caught a rerun of the now-defunct show Men In Trees and I liked what Marin Frist, Anne Heche's character, said at the end of the episode:

“The truest thing I know about relationships is that sometimes, we don’t know anything at all. You can’t always get the one you want. And sometimes, the one you get, may not be the right one at all. But if you have hope, the universe has a funny way of showing you exactly what you need. The challenge is to let yourself be alone until the right one shows up. But you can’t hide either. Heartbreak sucks, but not having heartbreak sucks more. The answers aren’t in a lecture or a book, but maybe if you get yourself happy, you’ll find the right one. I believe this because against all odds, I’m still an optimist. That’s the thing about love, if it were that easy, everyone would have it.”


I still have a few friends out there who are still playing the relationship game, either by choice or by default. Some even post their relationship ups and downs on Facebook for all the world to see. I admit that I get irritated once in a while when these friends can't seem to snap out of a relationship that's obviously doomed and keep whining and dramatizing it ad nauseam. That may come across as insensitive but I was never one to just sit in a corner and wallow in my misery. Yes, it's sad and it hurts but that shouldn't stop you from living your life. You shouldn't be afraid of being alone because it's only when you're alone that love can find you again. If you're always jumping from one relationship, with someone who's not right for you, into another because you don't like being single, you might miss out on the one who is. Maybe you'll be too wrapped up in trying to make your existing relationship work that you won't notice him or maybe he won't notice you because he's not looking for someone who's attached. 

So, embrace being single. Pamper yourself, enjoy life with family and good friends and be happy. Love may surprise you yet.


Mood Music: The Rain Song by Led Zeppelin